How Does Self-Kindness Make You a Better Person?

Why is it so hard to love yourself? I’m not talking about selfish, worldly love. I’m talking about true, unconditional love, where you show yourself grace and mercy. The kind where your self-talk is compassionate and understanding when you make a mistake. 

Why is it so much easier to say kind, uplifting words to a friend? Why is it so natural to encourage a loved one when they’re hurting, but kick your own self when you’re down. 

Life-changing question #1: Would you have any friends if you treated them the way you treat to yourself? 

No? Then why do you talk to yourself that way?! For many of us, if we loved others as poorly as we love ourselves, we would probably hurt, alienate, and insult everyone in our lives. 

Life-changing question #2: How would you take it if someone else spoke to you the way you talk to yourself?

God didn’t design you to live a self-berating life. You are his precious child. God himself declared you a masterpiece (Ephesians 2:10)! In fact, one of His greatest commandments instructs us to love ourselves, so that we may be better at loving others. I know this is a foreign concept, but you must learn to be kind to yourself, to truly be kind to others and love them effectively. 

Overflowing Jesus Journal: Day 6 Prompt

Let’s dive in and do some self-work! Prayer journaling is a powerful way to connect with God, focus our prayers, and make sense of our feelings. This post is Day 6 of the Overflowing Jesus Journal Prompts. If you missed it, start with Day 1, which explains the whole concept.

In yesterday’s prompt, we discussed the power of our thoughts. Let’s take that a step deeper and explore how our self-talk impacts our lives.

Warning: Today’s journal prompt might prompt some major feelings. You may need some extra time and paper for this one.

Mark 12:31 NIV – The second is this: “Love your neighbor as yourself.” There is no commandment greater than these.

Before you begin writing, consider this:

We often focus on the neighbor portion of this verse and forget it instructs us to treat ourselves well – with kindness, mercy, and grace – in order to be capable of genuinely doing the same for others. How would your life change if you extended the same kindness to yourself you show to others? How would your relationships change? If you feel compelled, write your answer down.

  • Write a prayer, asking God to help you recognize your negative, defeating self-talk and replace it with words of life, truth, and kindness.
  • Next, pen an apology letter to yourself, asking for forgiveness for all the hurtful things you’ve said and done to yourself in the past. 
  • Finally, write a letter forgiving yourself treating yourself that way. Then. Let. It. Go. 
  • Thank God for three things in your life. No repeats from previous entries!

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Please click the “Like” star and make a comment, below, if this post touched your heart or the prompts are making a positive impact in your life. I would love to hear from you!

Would you like to (re)invite Jesus into your heart? If so, congratulations! This post is for you.

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