Do you find the word “yes” popping out of your mouth a little too easily? Yeah. Me, too.
I’m getting over it, but to start the process, I had to examine my motives behind saying it.
The truth is, I want to make people happy. I want them to like me. I also feel like I should just go ahead and do something if I am physically capable of doing it – even if that means sacrificing something important in the process.
In the rush to please people, it’s easy to forget time is finite. We all have the exact same amount of hours and can’t generate more. To start healing from “Yes Syndrome,” we have to realize how we use our minutes matters. That saying yes to one thing means saying no to something else. This rule is the applies whether we’re meeting responsibilities or choosing how we use our free time.
Time is finite.
For example, saying a guilty yes to attending evening board meetings for a cause I have no interest in serving, means saying no to attending my son’s soccer games. Conversely, if I say yes to binge-watching hours of Netflix every night, I say no to engaging with my family. If I use my yes to stay up late working on trivial projects, I say no to the sacred early morning time with God that sets the tone for my whole day.
Please understand, I’m not saying we shouldn’t help people. We absolutely should! If someone genuinely needs our help, we need to step up and do what needs to be done. However, I am saying, we should steward our time well. We need to be aware of our motivations, set boundaries, know our limits, and ensure we say the right yeses for the right reasons.
Begrudging, poorly motivated yeses lead to resentment and hurt relationships. However, properly used yeses draw us closer to God and our loved ones. They bring fulfillment and help us achieve our goals, all while doing things from a genuine place, with a generous heart.
Choose your yeses and choose them well. Say yes to God. Say yes to peace and joy. Say yes to your family. Say yes to your dreams. Say yes to living your best life!
Now, please use the prompts below to write in your prayer journal about how you’ll use your yeses shape your life.
Overflowing Jesus Journal: Day 25
Read the following verses and let them sink into your soul. Consider how you can use them to guide your choices.
Galatians 1:10 NIV – Am I now trying to win the approval of human beings, or of God? Or am I trying to please people? If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ.
Romans 12:2 NIV – Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.
When you’re ready, say a prayer for God to reveal his wisdom to you through your writing, and then journal your answers to the following as a prayer:
- What impact has saying “yes” to the wrong things had on your life?
- How will you apply what you learned from that situation to your future yeses?
- List one way you’ll use your yeses to serve God, draw closer to your family, and/or live joyfully.
- Pray for someone else by name.
- Thank Jesus for three things you’re grateful for from the last 24 hours. No repeats from previous entries!
If this is your first time here, or it’s your first time prayer journaling and you want more writing prompts, AWESOME! Start with Day 1. It explains the whole concept. If you like, you can do the posts after the Day 1 post, in chronological order, to get the full healing experience.
No pressure though! If you’re crunched on time, you can treat them like a buffet, and only write on the ones that inspire you or tug at your spirit. Let the Lord guide you through your process. This is your journey and I’m thrilled that this little blog is a part of it!
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