Why Disappointment is Important for Growth

I spent a lot of time in my life avoiding discomfort and the dreaded “disappointment.”

I was wrong.

I realize now I’m disappointed by the lack of disappointment – because it means I didn’t try all the things I should have. I can only imagine where life would be if I were willing to put myself out there, attempt new things – big things – and shoot for the stars, if only to land on the moon. 

Now, do I regret the way my life turned out? Absolutely not. I love it! But, I do regret not knowing what would have happened, if only I’d tried in the areas that scare me. 

I think part of the reason I lived so small for so long was a fear of failure. My negative self-talk was enough to keep anyone from wanting to try, but I’ll always have to wonder what God could have done through me, if only I’d been obedient to his repeated gentle coaxing. 

Now I just want to live full throttle for him! I feel him leading me outside of my comfort zone to do “scary” things, such as writing these blog posts, and I have to overcome myself every day to do it. I realize I can’t live a life that’s fully surrendered to him if I insist on wrenching the steering wheel out of his hands every time life hits a bump or goes a little too fast. 

I am also learning how giving God control and showing myself grace allows me to grow from my disappointments. My son is obsessed with soccer and a very talented player, so it’s the same grace I try to help my him experience whenever he’s feels let down by his performance on the soccer field. Our conversations go like this:

Him: [Shoulders slumped.] I just wish I would have played better.

Me: What do you wish you would have done differently?

Him: [Perks up a bit] Hmmmm. I ran out of energy too fast. I feel like I didn’t do nearly as well in the last half.

Me: How will you use that knowledge to help you perform better in the future?

Him: I guess I could do more conditioning at home?

Me: Great! What’s your plan for that?

Him: [Lightbulb moment.] I’ll take the dogs for a run every morning!

I had a big A-HA! moment when I realized how much my life would transform if I offered myself the same grace I show him and started asking myself growth-oriented questions like those when life didn’t go according to plan. I know you can, too!

Overflowing Jesus Journal: Day 35

Do you show yourself grace? Do you acknowledge when you do things well? Do you use your disappointment as springboards for growth? God created you for his purposes, knowing you wouldn’t be perfect; however, because of his love, your best is enough. Actually, it’s more than enough because he will work through it and pick up where you leave off because he cares for you and he is your Father. When he calls you, he will equip you, but you have to let him!

Read over the following verse and let it sink into your soul. Pray for wisdom and insight and think about the grace God has shown to you!

Ephesians 2:8-10  (NIV) – 8 For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith—and this is not from yourselves, it is the gift of God— 9 not by works, so that no one can boast. 10 For we are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.

When you’re ready, write the following in your prayer journal:

  • Think of a time when you were disappointed with the outcome of something you attempted. Write yourself a letter that congratulates you for your efforts and shows empathy for what you went through. Encourage yourself! Be the friend you needed then. Forgive yourself, if needed.
  • Prayerfully acknowledge one area in the scenario where you did well and one thing you wish you would have done differently. 
  • Let’s convert that into a growth mindset: For the thing you wish you’d done better, what lesson did you learn and how will you use it to grow and improve, both right now and in the future? Pray for insights and write them down.
  • Thank God for the lesson and for helping you glean everything he needs you to learn from it. Thank him in advance for using it as a tool for healing and transformation in your life. 
  • Write a prayer for someone else, by name.
  • Thank God for three blessings from the last 24 hours. No repeats from previous entries!

Thanks for joining me! If this is your first time here, or it’s your first experience prayer journaling and you can’t wait to get more journal prompts, AWESOME! Start with Day 1. It explains the whole concept. If you like, you can do the posts after the Day 1 post, in chronological order, to get the full healing experience. To move through them, just scroll down until you see “Next Post” and click the link below.

No pressure though! If you’re crunched on time, you can treat them like a buffet and only write on the ones that inspire you or tug at your spirit. Let the Lord guide you through your process. This is your journey and I’m thrilled that this little blog is a part of it!

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Thanks for reading and have a beautiful day!

Be blessed!

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