Last week, an old friend of the family and his son got killed in a car accident. He was 30 and his son was just two years old. Both died so young and way too soon for our human hearts. God knows better than we do about everything, so I have to trust his timing when he decides to call someone home. Even when it hurts and I have questions.
He was my brother’s childhood best friend. They’re both a lot younger than me, but he spent a ton of time at my mom’s house and my house swimming and goofing off. He and I were never super close, and I hadn’t talked to him in ages because adult life happened, but that didn’t make it any less shocking. This blanket of sadness just fell over me, and I questioned whether or not I even had the right to grieve because it had been so long since our last interaction. Then I realized I should.
In my grief, I can stand with the people who loved him the most: his mom, fiance, remaining kids, family, and friends like my brother. Grieving him shows his life mattered and he impacted lives, even those of us who hadn’t seen him in a long time.
I knew him well enough to know he wanted the people he loved to be happy and would probably biff them upside the head if they stayed sad too long on his behalf. I may not have answers as to why he died so soon, but I can pray for his loved ones to heal and find joy again, as a tribute to him. I can pray for them to find healthy ways to cope with his loss.
Thankfully, I wrote last week’s post before it happened because I just didn’t have the right words to share what I was going through when it was all so fresh and raw. I was supposed to do all sorts of things: Write more posts, get the new site up and going, finish projects, blah blah blah. Instead, I held my kiddos, made moments with them, and took a day off work to process.
I had to ask myself hard questions:
- Am I focusing on the things that matter most?
- Do the people I love know how much they matter to me?
- Am I stretching myself too far and thin by working full-time while maintaining this blog, getting a new website up and going, and writing a book?
The respective answers are:
- Yes, but not as much as I’d like.
So, as my tribute to Colin and the brevity of life, I need to prioritize and something’s got to give. After a lot of prayer, I realize, for the time being, weekly blogging is the thing I need to release to move forward with everything else. I have this sense of peace about it, like I said everything God needed me to say on here, and now I need that extra time to focus on my family and getting the new site going. I feel he’s asking me to pivot and let go of the old so I can embrace the new things he has for me – and you.
The Lord inspired me to start working specifically with moms because being a mom is hard right now. Us mamas need all the love, joy, encouragement, and empowerment we can get! God willing, the new site will go live on August 31st – but I haven’t even named it yet, so we’ll see… Perhaps the Lord will grace me with a light bulb moment. I’ll post updates on here as I get them.
I love you all so much and pray for you every day. Thank you for walking with me on this journey, and hopefully the next! You’re awesome.
Show someone you love them today. You never know when it will be your last opportunity.
Ecclesiastes 3:1-8 (NLT)
A Time for Everything
1 For everything there is a season, a time for every activity under heaven. 2 A time to be born and a time to die. A time to plant and a time to harvest. 3 A time to kill and a time to heal. A time to tear down and a time to build up. 4 A time to cry and a time to laugh. A time to grieve and a time to dance. 5 A time to scatter stones and a time to gather stones. A time to embrace and a time to turn away. 6 A time to search and a time to quit searching. A time to keep and a time to throw away. 7 A time to tear and a time to mend. A time to be quiet and a time to speak. 8 A time to love and a time to hate. A time for war and a time for peace.
Prayer Journal Prompts:
- Thank God for three people in your life, and write why you’re thankful for them.
- How can you love them in ways that matter to them?
- Pray for those people and let them know how you feel. Do the loving things you wrote.
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